Finding Your Creative Tribe

What does it mean to find your creative tribe?

Who or what is your creative tribe? gives us the etymology of the word tribe, “In the Biblical sense, which was the original one in English, the Latin word translates Greek phyle “race or tribe of men, body of men united by ties of blood and descent, a clan.”

This exact etymology gives us a way to describe what it means to have your creative tribe.  A body of men, which the original word means human being, united by common ties of interest, idea, passion, or desire.

It is said that your vibe attracts your tribe.  Kara of puts it this way,

“The only way to attract “your people” is to be yourself. If you are pretending to be someone that you’re not, you’re going to attract a tribe that has nothing in common with the real you.”

Sometimes this can be a process, being the real you. Being the person that you are comfortable being first and foremost and then you can ‘call’ in your tribe.  This also comes with knowing who you are, defining your passions and desires, and laying them out.

How can you find your tribe if you don’t know what it is that you actually want?  Write down your vision, your desires, your passions.  Write down what it is you want to get out of having a tribe, in having a like minded group of creative individuals. Create a vision board laying out the full vision and look at it often to keep the vision before you.

Words have power, focus has power, having a laid out vision has power because it gives you the focus you need to speak those things into existence.

But you know what else has power?  Being around those like you.

Be around those:
Who you connect with
Where you buy in
Where you fit
Where you express your full self
Where you can grow
Where you’re at home

Surround yourself with like-minded individuals; those that embody the aspects above.  Be around those that bring out the best in you but also want to see you grow; those willing to rub at the rough edges to bring out the greatness within you.

On top of this, don’t forget to pour into your tribe as well.  Not only are you finding a group of creative people who have something to offer you, you have something crucial to offer to this group as well.  Just as you need them to grow, thrive, and create, they need you too.

Remember to also promote those in your tribe, talk about them to others, get their name and skills out to prospects, and your tribe will repay the favor in kind.

Most importantly, don’t take your tribe for granted, they are valuable and they have much to offer.  Everyone brings something of value to the table, no one is left behind. Your tribe may end up becoming your Ohana.

Your tribe is your mind spring, your think tank, your sounding board, your wet stone, and it is also your safety net.  They are there to encourage, to help, to see each other grow.

When I think of a tribe I cannot help but think of The Inklings. Men like JRR Tolkien and CS Lewis were a part of this group of men who met often to sharpen the skills of one another.  If these men, among many others, never had this kind of tribe who knows if we would have the great literary works such as The Lord of the Rings and The Chronicles of Narnia.

And lastly, be active in your tribe.  Don’t just show up once and then blow them off.  If they meet on a regular basis, make the effort to join as often as possible, give your insight and input. Don’t be afraid to make suggestions and tap into the creative potential within you to help those in your tribe create their works.

I can guarantee they will appreciate it and it will foster a creative mindset, to constantly keep exploring, growing and creating.

In summary, write down the vision, write down what you want in a tribe. Discover yourself, your persona, who you really are and live it out.  In so doing your vibe will attract your tribe and when they come be around them as often as possible.  Feed into them and they will feed into you.  The results that will come from the creative partnership will be far reaching and the world will be better because of it.

Hope you enjoyed this post, leave a comment with your thoughts and please share if you agree or gained something from this post.  Thanks and blessings!




The Church and the Masked Parade

Paper faces on parade
Hide your face,
so the world
will never find you!

Ah the lyrics from The Phantom of the Opera. Hide your face so the world will never find you.  Pretend that everything is okay and that nothing is wrong. Hide behind a lie and let everyone believe something that is not true.

I think that this is all too familiar, we pick which head/mask to wear and go about our day hiding behind our masks.  This is even more often in the church.

I resulted to this back in July.

I was having a time of emotional stress and stress with life in general, feeling the eminent burn out I stepped down from leadership and I ran and hid.  I ran to the cave, just like Elijah, and I hid for over six weeks.  Instead of going to the place that I should have, the church, I ran away.  I choose to put on a mask and hide, to forgo allowing anyone to see what was really going on.

The church should be the first place we go to be real, open, honest, and raw with each other.  We need to be real with the body of Christ, with our pastors, with ourselves, and more importantly with our G-d!

However, more often than not we choose to put on a mask and avoid being real.  It is hard to be real because that means we must be vulnerable and allow people to see us as we are.  G-d already sees us as we are and we cannot hide behind our masks with Him. He lets us pretend, but He easily sees through the pretense.

We automatically think that we are going to be judged by our Brothers and Sisters in Christ if we are raw and real with them.  So we hide away, we put that smile on during service and pretend. We keep pretending until eventually it all breaks through and we erupt.

The previous church I had attended, we were informed by the senior pastor to put on a face, even if we weren’t feeling it.  He wanted us to lie to the congregation and pretend that everything was good and nothing was wrong in our lives.  This leads to burn out and deception to the congregation.

Who can they turn to when something is wrong in their life if they believe that the senior leadership always has it together?

I honestly believe that it creates an environment of safety, comfort, and inclusion if the senior leadership is transparent with their congregation.  If they allow themselves to be real and honest with us and not wear masks, then we will feel comfortable enough to shed our masks and be open as well.

Just like Jim Carrey in the movie The Mask, we allow that mask to become our identity, we allow it to become our truth and continue to constantly hide behind it even when we are pointed out as hiding.  It is painful, and almost always never easy, but it needs to be done.  The mask needs to come off, the church needs to see the real Body of Christ.  The body that doesn’t have it together but is constantly receiving strength from Christ and moving forward in Him.

The world needs to see the real us, the raw and real Church, a place where they can come in all their hurt and pain and through us loving them as Christ, eventually throw off their masks and become transformed. Our masks aren’t doing the world any good, they aren’t doing us any good, they are only hurting the world and hurting us.

So what mask are you wearing today?

  • Fear
  • Rejection
  • Anger
  • Hate
  • Woundedness
  • Lust
  • Greed
  • Addiction
  • etc

Take off the mask, throw it before the altar of God. Seek out counsel or help from someone you trust. Get down into scripture and pick up the mask of His truth for you in His Word.

  • Loved
  • Precious
  • King and Priest
  • Redeemed
  • Sanctified
  • Holy
  • Pure
  • Clean
  • Worthy
  • Beloved
  • Etc

Leave me a comment and your honest opinion on this post.  Love to hear what masks you are or were wearing and how Christ helped you to rid yourself of them.


Read more: Phantom Of The Opera – Masquerade Lyrics | MetroLyrics

The Raw Journey of Faith

Some say that faith, or better yet, trust in Christ is a crutch.

“Why rely on G-d, when you could do it all in your own strength?”

Why rely on Him indeed?

The Honest Truth

Honestly, the truth is I cannot do it all in my own strength.  If that were the case then I would have all my dreams attained already and nothing left to strive towards.  If I could have done it all on my own, without G-d, then there would be SO many dreams I would have acquired and lived already. However, that is far from the case, and in reality, some days it is extremely hard not to be anywhere close to where I would like to be in life.

As of late, my strength of faith has been seriously lacking.  Is there anything smaller than mustard seed?  Just going to be real, open, and honest with those rare few who even read this blog.

I think we all have those times when it is hard to believe when everything around us is in contradiction to what we are hoping and believing to happen. Some days we try our best to hang on to whatever thread of promise G-d has tossed out to us. And other days we are barely holding onto that thread, I know I am right now.

Real Faith

In Mark 11: 22-24, “22 So Jesus answered and said to them, “Have faith in G-d. 23 For assuredly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be removed and be cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that those things he says will be done, he will have whatever he says. 24 Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them.”

Jesus makes it sound so simple, “Have faith in G-d.”

According to the original Greek, the word faith in this verse is Pistin. (from where this definition is taken), states that pistin, or faith as something “The Lord continuously births faith in the yielded believer so they can know what He prefers, i.e. the persuasion of His will (1 Jn 5:4).”

How can we have faith in the persuasion of His will when often times our desires we make trump what He has planned for us. I try to let my desires be His desires and vice versa but as humans we often think that our way or plan is better than our Abba.

A Road Yet Taken

One of my all time favorite poems, The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost.

Famous inspirational quote by Robert Frost.

And for those of us who choose the road of faith, which at times has been blazoned by those who came before us, it can be a road not taken.  How you ask?  Because each walk of faith is our own, our journey with Abba Father is independent of anyone else.  At times yes, there is similarities in people’s walk with the Lord; however, for the most part, our journey of faith is our own.

And it is in those moments, when we realize our travels along the road not taken of faith, are between us and G-d, that is a point we see that it can be scary and difficult. Some times while traveling this road it becomes overshadowed and dark, but He is here with us.  It is in these dark places that it becomes hard to trust that He knows the road ahead; He knows when to turn left or right and eventually as we have faith and trust, He will lead us back into the clearing.

Into the Light

Even though my faith is struggling right now and I honestly don’t know if He has a plan for me, a future, or even a destiny.  However, as much as my flesh, and the devil, wants me to walk away, I cannot. I will continue to have faith in His promise(s), no matter how dim, because He knows the way.  I can try and draw the path on the map of my own making, but that will only get me so far before I am completely lost and turned around.  The Holy Spirit is our GPS, Christ is our guide, and G-d is our provider for the journey.  Even at times the path will get even “darker before it gets lighter” (Wizard of Oz quote.)

And remember,

Thanks for making it to the end, if you read it all let me know in the comments.  What struggles are you dealing with in your walk with G-d right now?  Let me know!  Be blessed as you go about your week.

And I am changing the schedule for posting this blog, because of work, school and time, I will post here on the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of the month.

PS: Check out my other blog where I talk about my lifestyle, weight loss, and fitness at Fenix Style.


The Power Ranger Church

The Body of Christ, a dynamic and powerful church.  At least, it was with the first century church and it has been at varying times throughout its almost 2000 year history. And it will be again.

One Body, Many Parts

4For just as we have many members in one body and all the members do not have the same function, 5so we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. 6Since we have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, each of us is to exercise them accordingly: if prophecy, according to the proportion of his faith; 7if service, in his serving; or he who teaches, in his teaching; 8or he who exhorts, in his exhortation; he who gives, with liberality; he who leads, with diligence; he who shows mercy, with cheerfulness.

9Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil; cling to what is good. 10Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; 11not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; 12rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer, 13contributing to the needs of the saints, practicing hospitality.

14Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. 16Be of the same mind toward one another; do not be haughty in mind, but associate with the lowly. Do not be wise in your own estimation. 17Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men. 18If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men. Romans 12:4-18

Also check out 1 Corinthians 12:12-31

The Body of Christ should be working together as one unified organism, not always separated as individual parts.  Each individual congregation is a working organism, a church with parts working in unison; they each have a head (the pastor), hands, neck, arms, feet, legs etc. In the same vein, the Bride of Christ is also one body, with Christ as the head, YHVH as the Brain, and the Holy Spirit as the heart and we are the bones, muscles, limbs working together to further the Gospel of Christ. Just as each part of the zord works well alone, it is when they all come together that they are even stronger.

The Gifted Bride

Each local congregation, each “church” is gifted in certain areas; that local body is great at doing certain things.  Not every church is great at everything, that would defeat the need for the body to work together. Some aspects they are great at include:

  • Feeding the poor
  • Creating atmospheres of worship
  • Equipping the Saints
  • Sending out Missionaries
  • Healing the sick
  • Building Community
  • Bringing in the lost and forsaken
  • Caring for the widow and orphan etc

We desperately need the giftings God has placed on other local congregations; we need what God has imparted in them to be even more effective at advancing the Kingdom of God and furthering the Gospel of Christ.  To try and do the whole cause of Christ alone would be foolish and we wouldn’t be as effective as we can be.

A House Divided

Right now the church is trying to do it all on it’s own two feet.  We have yet to find a way for the denominations to cross our self created boundaries to further the gospel.  We can gather the church together for a concert, such as For King and Country, every denomination comes together without even realizing it to sing praises and watch a band.  Imagine how effective the body could be if we set aside our differences and worked together to make disciples of all nations?

It is only slight differences in theological ideals that separate us.  We all believe in Jesus Christ, that He is the Savior, born of a virgin, crucified, and on the 3rd day was raised from the dead.  We all believe in God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. Why should minor differences in our understanding of the Bible divide us completely?

Is it really so difficult to just work together to do what Christ commanded?

Matthew 10:8 “Heal the sick, raise the dead, cure those with leprosy, and cast out demons. Give as freely as you have received!”

Matthew 28:19-20 “Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. 20Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”

Church, for a moment think how much more, how much farther the gospel could go around the world, and even in our own nation if we work together rather than apart?

Be blessed today Saints and embedded below is my video where spend a few minutes talking about the very same thing.  Check it out and let me know what you think, would love to hear from you on this topic or what types of posts you want to see! Also check out my other blog as well

Power Ranger


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The Unbalanced Scale

Recently one woman has stirred up a buzz in social media and the news.  That woman is Tess Holliday.  She is the first size 22 supermodel who recent signed with MiLK model management UK.

And people have their panties all in a bind over her.  Why?  Because she is “overweight, morbidly obese etc.”

Is that really the reason?  

Recently, a friend shared an article about “glorifying fat people.”  The short article expresses their discontent that we have gone from glorifying one extreme of unhealthy to another extreme of unhealthy.  That in today’s culture we have gone from cocaine chic to bodacious babes.

I wholeheartedly disagree with this sentiment.  Standards of beauty have changed with the ages. And I don’t believe we are glorifying her; I believe we are appreciating her beauty. She has worked hard to become the first size 22 supermodel and I applaud her for this feat. Unhealthy or not, she has broken down some barriers in the modeling industry and that is a major accomplishment in her favor.  Glorifying fat people would mean that we have an overabundance of obese models.

And I believe that the fashion industry is finally changing its considered “norms” to appreciate all body types, unhealthy or not. Yes she is overweight, but she isn’t intending to stay that way.  She does have a personal trainer who is working with her to get her in shape and lose those extra pounds.  Will social media and the news finally be content when she gets down to the industry standard of size 4 and below?

“In the fashion industry, ‘plus size’ is a term for models who are size 8 and up. But in the real world, most people would never think of a size 8 as plus size — most plus-size clothing doesn’t even start until a size 16.” ( 2014)

In the same vein, there is no uproar about “plus-sized” male models. “Part of the reason why there are no plus-size male models is that there are no politics behind it. It’s not a controversial issue in the same way that it is for women. Men are objectified all the time in the media, but it’s not called ‘objectification’. There’s no male equivalent of feminist ideology.” (telegraph, 2015).

We obsess over the fact that an overweight woman is on the cover of our magazines and promoting that every one love their bodies, men and women alike. However, we don’t have any “overweight” men on the covers of our magazines.  All the men we have on the covers wear a size 32-34 pant.  When the average American man wears a size 40.

Tess has a personal campaign called Eff Your Beauty Standards to encourage everybody to be comfortable in your own skin and don’t let the standards of beauty dictate how to feel about your body and yourself.  Instead of getting all up in arms over her, why can we not just appreciate that she has achieved a dream and that she is shaking the standards of beauty. And leading the way for beauty images to change and starting to level the playing ground for others to come into play.

What about the Men?

I mentioned it above, but we don’t really talk about it often.  Men struggle with body image just like women; although it is openly discussed more with women.  There is no such thing as meninism, where we fight for the gender equality of men.  Yet there is a gap in the fashion industry for “plus-sized” men in the public eye.  Every male model is either cocaine thin or muscular/lean with washboard abs and defined muscles.  We NEVER see a guy with a little flab who may actually not be “plus-sized”, he just isn’t toned.

The scale isn’t balanced either for men or women in the fashion industry; it is a sad but true fact.  We still belittle women who don’t fit the mold we are force fed and the same goes for men. Both genders struggle with body image and we need to express this, we need to make it known that men struggle just as women do.  We don’t make it easy for either gender to appreciate how they look.

The standards are very askew for either party and we need to see all ranges of body types in fashion and that everyone is beautiful.  You don’t have to be size 8 or size 32 to be beautiful or found attractive.  Each person is beautiful in their own way and in the eyes of our Creator.


A Dim Reflection

Often times in the midst of our struggles, worries, fears, temptations, and sin it is difficult to maintain who we are.  I don’t mean that we lack integrity; although at times that does happen.  I mean we lose sight of who we are.  We lose sight of what scripture and YHVH says we are.  I know that as of late this has happened to me.

There are times that I don’t want to say these things over me, and the list above isn’t even remotely comprehensive of everything that scripture says about us as believers. After I have screwed up and I glance at where these lists are posted, I want to look away and ignore them.  I don’t often believe that what YHVH says about me is true.  I know I am a sinner and in need of His grace; however, there are times that I don’t want to accept it because I am not worthy of it and that is even more true as of late.

This blatant disregard of what The Word declares about me is arrogance and pride.  As much as I would like to believe that He has no plans for me, that His word doesn’t ring true in my life, is acceptance of a lie.  I look in the mirror and I don’t see that man who God sees, I don’t look like the Righteous Warrior, the Man of Integrity, Valor, and Honor that remains in His vision.  I see a man with many, many faults and failures.

But the Blood of Christ has covered those and I have to stop operating from a place of the flesh, the past, and a place of self.

Here is the fact, we all need to stop looking in the mirror, looking at others and those around us and creating a flawed comparison.  The only comparison we should ever be making is how much closer am I to Christ.  How much closer am I to looking like Him, acting like Him, loving like Him? Taking the affirmations of scripture and declaring them over us even when we don’t see it, act like it, or even believe it.  Cause His word is truth no matter the circumstances in our lives.

Great words by St. Patrick, as part of his well-known prayer. This should be our focus in our lives, all about Christ.  In the words of Carl Lentz of Hillsong NYC, “Always. Only. Jesus.”  Even when we can’t see what God sees, or our faith is turning to doubt, it is always, only, Jesus.  Our gaze needs to be firmly planted on Him, even in the midst of our storm-tossed lives, even when the waves are crashing over our heads and the future seems bleak.  It is always about Him.

I am thankful for people who speak into my life and who I allow to be honest with me, even when I don’t want to listen.  Even though I really am, I just have to take the information and chew on it for a bit before taking any action.  I was having a rough couple weeks with my faith and believing that God is who He says He is.  You think that things would be easy after 10 years of being a Christian?

The truth is the battle of faith and doubt is a lifelong process and Him working out His ultimate plan is lifelong as well.  The road my be rough but the reward at the end is worth the process.

I encourage you today Saints to find a list of what YHVH says about you and post it where you can see it often so that you can have His truth thoroughly ingrained in you and walk out the fullness of your identity in Him.


A Preamble Scramble

Hello and welcome!  This second site will be more focused on spiritual, social, and political topics while my primary blog will focus on my lifestyle, eating, weight loss etc.  I didn’t know how I was going to begin this site or what post I wanted to begin with; however, I was in the process of typing up a status update for facebook and as I was writing I figured it would be a great rant/first post.  So here it goes.

“We the people of the United States, in order to form a more perfect union, establish justice, insure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America.”

On Facebook I have many friends of varying political views, belief systems etc.  And lately I have been noticing a lot of pointing fingers at everyone.

Can we as Americans quit pointing fingers at which political party has steered us wrong and just admit we ALL have failed this country?  Can we just decide to set aside political, racial, religious etc agendas and work together as HUMAN BEINGS to bring this country out of the ashes WE pushed it into?

Quit relying on others to do what only we can do. Band together as humans on this planet to rebuild what we all have destroyed.  The government isn’t to blame, the cops aren’t to blame, the blacks, whites, and gays aren’t to blame.  We all, as a collective, are to blame for the state of this once proud union.  After all, we are the ones who elected the people into office that didn’t fulfill all they promised they would.  Stop blaming the Democrats or Republicans and start pointing the fingers at ourselves.  I don’t know what you believe, but one thing we have neglected, is the American people.

“And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye?  Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look a plank is in your own eye?  Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” Matthew 7: 3-5 NKJV.

We have focused so much on helping the rest of the world, providing food, support, money, troops for the rest of the world that our own country has fallen into a state of disarray.  It is time we focus on removing the plank from our own eyes so we can then remove the speck of sawdust from our allied nations.  Focus on our poor, homeless, education, small businesses etc before helping the rest of the world.  America could very easily become a self-sufficient nation if we would focus on the interior instead of so much on the exterior.

The Preamble of the United States of America. We the People, not we the Republicans, or we the Democrats; We the People!  That is how our country started, people coming together to form a ‘more perfect union.”  There wasn’t political affiliations at this time, that didn’t come until later.  It wasn’t organized government that protected and fed the people, it was people with a common ideal and goal in mind to see that America was taken care of.

We need to return to this ideal, fending for ourselves, providing for ourselves through small businesses, American crafted products and quit importing everything.  America at one point was one of the greatest countries in the world but we have forgotten that past and our future looks very bleak.  I highly encourage you to watch the below video.  It sums up everything I have written.

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